Parent-Child Conflict

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One of the underlying factors of domestic violence is the lack of regular communication between family members. In extreme situations, family members do little more than pass each other on their way to their respective bedrooms. When parents and their children don’t communicate about the everyday occurrences in their lives, they find themselves mostly talking about stressful and confrontational events — often a child’s misbehavior.

In order to ensure more regular communication, family members must establish a time and place for discussions.

MAKING PARENT-CHILD COMMUNICATION HAPPEN

Time: When the latter (or last) of the participating family member comes home, a minimum of ten minutes per conversation.

Location: A spot in the home that provides some privacy and where interruption is least likely.

Ground Rule: Both (or all) participants must stay seated during the entire conversation.

 

Some suggested Questions: (Best are questions without yes/no answers)

  • Describe what happened today
  • What were the high points?
  • Did you have any disappointments or angry moments? What were they?
  • Does the child have much homework? Can the parent be helpful?
  • What can we do over the weekend?
  • What family problems do we need to discuss?